The baby is not crying in the Ergobaby, so that’s a plus for me – but I’m sweating profusely. My biggest issue with the Ergobaby is how difficult it is to actually put it on and adjust it as you are wearing it. It was nearly impossible for me. It’s not geared toward one sex over the other, but I’d like to have something that’s somewhat neutral or geared towards fathers. Still, there are a few brilliant designs on there and it’s not overbearing. In all, the Ergobaby didn’t make me self-conscious and I was quite happy.